Guys, find out when it’s time to act or back off.

Men are clueless when a woman shows them through every sign that she’s into them, but are convinced the one who is nothing but friendly wants them badly!

I’ve seen it happen so many times and I know how frustrating it is for both sides.

Here’s how to tell the difference so you don’t find yourself (again) in the unfortunate situation of suddenly taking her in your arms, kissing her, and getting slapped in the face.

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That’s exactly why Jason started his coaching sessions with me. He had a habit of misunderstanding women’s signals and would always get himself into trouble.

He met this woman who, according to his perception, was so into him. They met at work. She was a contractor, the hot kind. They got along very well from the start and she asked him if he could fix her computer, which was a bit slow lately. He gladly accepted.

When he went to her place to do the job, she greeted him wearing one of those silky sexy robes that you see in movies. Nothing too revealing, just cozy and somewhat sultry.

Jason interpreted this as a sign of ‘I want you so bad, give it to me now!’, because who would wear something so luscious in her own home, waiting for a man? Apparently, she did.

He proceeded to swiftly and assertively take her in his arms and kiss her passionately. Or at least try to. Because she instantly construed that as a sign of aggression and hit him so hard across the face that he still felt the burn of her fingers on his left cheeks days later.

She threw him out and slammed the door behind him. As her dark red robe suggested, she was a passionate woman. She just wasn’t passionate about him.

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To make things clear, just because a woman asks you to come over to fix her computer doesn’t mean she wants you. Most often than not, it’s exactly what she said: she has problems with her computer and will ask you as a friend if you can help.

Don’t be the kind of friend who uses it as an opportunity to slide into her panties. Usually, it will fail.

Also, you have to be aware that some women are freer with their bodies and the way they dress. That’s not an invitation to anything sexual. It’s just the way they express themselves.

Examples include: wearing cleavage or a short skirt, wearing a robe when you go visit, or not wearing a bra underneath her T-shirt. Those are most often than not just her personal style, not an invitation to get it on.

If, on the other hand, you go to the bathroom and come back to find her waiting for you completely naked, it’s ok to proceed. She wants you!

Here are 3 of the most common signs that she’s into you, but she doesn’t scream it from the mountain tops, because that’s not how most women behave.

1. She doesn’t make excuses

The easiest way to know if she likes you is this: ask her out. If she’s into you, she’ll say yes. If she finds excuses, that’s a no. If she says ‘I’m not into dating right now’, that’s a no. If she says ‘I’m going away this weekend, but how about next week?’ see if she says ‘yes’ next week. If she doesn’t, that’s a no.

It can be a bit confusing and frustrating for men because due to centuries of trying to keep themselves safe, women avoid confrontation, so they don’t use direct language either.

But here is what men don’t understand: women don’t use direct language for ‘no’. But they do use direct language for ‘yes’.

It’s actually simpler than you think: ‘yes’ is the only thing that means ‘yes’. All the other options are a diplomatic ‘no’.

No need to complicate things.

2. She’s interested in your presence

If asking her on a date is too much for you, for the time being, analyze the signals she gives you when she’s in your presence.

Does she hold your gaze? Does she keep looking at you more than she looks at other people? Does she always have a smile on her face when she looks at you or is she laughing at all your jokes, even the ones you know bombed?

It could be that she has a very friendly personality or is a people pleaser, but what you need to look for is the difference in attitude towards you vs. other people, especially other men.

It’s important to not trick yourself into believing what you want to believe, like:

‘Oh, yes, she looked at me 1 second more than she looked at John, she must be into me!’

No! Take into account all the elements: did you talk more than John? Were you the center of attention at that point? Did you make a joke or ask for help? Did you have pie on your face? If that happened, it’s just natural that she looked at you for longer, everybody else in the room did, right?

Just take your time, be patient and analyze the situation for a bit. And if you just can’t tell, you can always go back to point no. 1.

Just saying, a little rejection is the best thing to learn and grow from your mistakes.

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3. She’s shy around you

Don’t let the power suit fool you! Even the toughest career woman can turn into a shy school girl in front of her crush.

What you need to be aware of is that being shy can look very different from person to person. While some girls are the classic type who look down and blush, some may seem distant and aloof.

If she’s the second type, you have no way of knowing if that distance is because she’s into you or she hates your guts.

Watch out for this one important thing: if she’s cold but sticks around, chances are that’s her way of being shy and you’ll need to be patient enough to break through that tough shell.

If she’s cold, distant, and avoids you at all costs, finding every excuse in the book to not be around you, you’ve got your answer.

Guys, the situation is simpler than most people think.

Don’t turn it into a shituation by over-complicating things.

If all else fails, it’s no tragedy. Go ask her out and you’ll get your answer.