Scotland chose the unicorn as its national animal! Wow! Life is full of surprising facts, isn’t it? But none of them is more surprising to men than the moment a woman lost interest in them. 

Now that’s shocking!

You got her. She’s yours. The woman of your dreams, the one you’ve always wanted, the one other men congratulate you on and are secretly waiting for you to break up so they can have a go.

Now you can relax and let life unfold, phew, it’s finally easy, no need to fight anymore.

And just as you’re watching the match, hurling obscenities at the adverse team, with beer dripping down your oily chin, the unthinkable happens.

In the corner of your eye, you see a human shape dragging squarish objects towards the door, and before you have a chance to yell one more ‘break his legs, the dirty c***’, the door slams with a bang and you’re all alone.

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She left you! She’s gone! In shock and disbelief, you run out into the night, but she’s already out of sight, and you’re left dumbfounded and confused to understand what has happened.

This is the time when men usually find their way towards my office to ask me which way to turn.

And after listening to their story and asking the right questions, I find that the explanation is usually the same. Women, you’d better listen up, you do the exact same thing.

Men! Women leave you when you are no longer interested and/ or interesting.

What does that mean? It means you changed. And she doesn’t like that.

Who were you when you were courting her? A man who was interested in her.

A man who would call her, send her texts, take her out on dates, cook her dinner, ask her how her day was while giving her a foot massage.

Who are you now?

A man who only calls her to ask where she hid the ketchup, texts her to get him one extra six-pack from the store, goes on dates only when she’s been already asking for 6 months, she cooks your dinner almost every night, and when you ask her how her day was you quickly tell her everything will be all right and pat her on the back, then lie down so she can give you your massage.

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You were also an interesting man.

You had outside hobbies and wanted to make a name for yourself. Or money for yourself, or travel the world. Or you had already traveled and you had beautiful stories to share and places to see that you wanted to share with her one day soon. You were an artist, a businessman, a man of the world.

Or at least something. You were something that was worthy of her interest.

Who are you now?

Now you are comfortable. You gave up on your dream to ever make it big, be the next Elon Musk, or spend a night at the North Pole hugging a polar bear. Now you’re this guy whose next trip is to the fridge, to get another beer. His main hobby is watching the game and bickering with the neighbor over how loud the TV is.

You used to be interested in her and now you’re complacent. You used to be an interesting human being who brought value into the world and now you’re as boring as boiled rice.

And women absolutely hate (hate!) boring.

If you really want to know what they want, try reading some romance novels especially designed for women (also called smut books for good reason, wink-wink).

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That’s what a woman wants. Respect, adventure, thrill, intense sex, and mesmerizing moments with a charismatic and seductive man who is obsessed with her.

And now you’re probably thinking you’ve already failed, because you have a normal life, with 0 adventure (other than that time you fell off the porch and broke your toe). And you’re not charismatic, you’re just a regular guy.

That’s where you’re wrong! Dead wrong!

Please hear me out, because if you apply this, it will change your life in ways you’ve never thought possible.

This is the truth: we’re all just regular people. Charisma is a skill, not an inborn trait. You can learn it.

Do this before she leaves you and you’ll never be in that situation ever again:

1. Take care of your body.

I always start with the superficial. It’s the easy part and the easiest to fix.

I couldn’t overstate this enough: go to the gym. guys, go the gym. You don’t need to get huge. In fact, you shouldn’t get huge, women don’t like that. But you should look healthy, toned, and like you care about yourself.

Comb that hair, or even better, go to a stylist and get a haircut and a shave. If you like a beard, do that, but keep it clean and trim.

Take a shower daily, put a crisp shirt on, and get clean shoes.

Words of the day: clean, neat, fresh.

You don’t have to look like the next Chris Hemsworth to have a chance, you just need to take care of yourself.

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2. Take care of your mind.

You need to have a purpose in life. Not for her, but for yourself. 

Otherwise, life will be a long string of useless days that you’ll absolutely hate.

Spending it on the couch watching other people live theirs only seems easy. And it’s only fun at first. Then it’s an ordeal that will be very difficult to get out of.

The problem is that it’s easy to fall into that dark hole of our own complacency. And it’s so much harder to get out of it.

That doesn’t mean you never get a chance to relax. You do. And yes, you can watch TV, you can bicker with your neighbor, or even spend an entire weekend in bed binging on TikTok, just don’t let it turn into a lifestyle.

I’m sure you have dreams. Work towards them. So what if they seem impossible? 

If you reach even half of them you’ll be happier than most guys out there. Just go to the North Pole, even if you don’t get to hug that bear. And you still accomplished more than everybody else around you.

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You need to be an interesting man to keep her interest. And it’s not because she’s some queen who needs to be pleased with an everyday spectacle of the best you can do.

It’s because she’s a human being, and we all get bored with the minutia of everyday life. That’s when she wants to look up to you and get her strength from you. 

Don’t forget: these roles are interchangeable!

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3. Take care of her and the relationship.

And I don’t mean buy her jewelry. Although that wouldn’t hurt.

I mean take care of her as well as you take care of yourself, your mom, your shiny car, or your business. Make her a priority. Otherwise, she will leave you.

Statistics say that it’s women who initiate most divorces. I’ve heard men reply to that they do it because women are not interested in relationships. That is a crude misinterpretation.

If women weren’t interested in relationships, why are there so many books, coaching programs, and YouTube channels dedicated to dating for women? 

Women do want relationships and marriage. But not with just anybody.

They want to be loved, and prioritized, they want connection, a shoulder to lean on, and a man who brings value to their life. Of course, all humans want the same thing, but in case you’re still thinking women are an enigma… they’re not.

Women and men are not that different. They might have different ways of expression, but the core is the same.

Women want to be cherished, not forgotten in a corner. Celebrated, not tolerated. Loved, not owned.

Put time and effort into the relationship and treat it as if it were a business. The more effort and brains you put into it, the more it thrives.

Just like any other business, it’s not smooth sales and it has its ups and downs, but if you wake up in the middle of the night with the woman walking out the door, it’s because you have been neglecting her, yourself, and the couple.

Conclusion: women lose interest in you when you lose interest in them and in yourself. And I know somewhere deep down you’ve already known that.

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