Part 2 of 2.
From bad, boring, and unsatisfying to fabulous, fiery, and passionate sex, the gap seems immense. But the truth is… it’s just a matter of mental reframing and avoiding the usual traps: the fear and awkwardness of sharing naked intimacy with another human being.
If you clicked on this article because you either know you’re having bad sex or are afraid you might be offering subpar sexual moments, I have to congratulate you! Most people are utterly oblivious to the harsh reality that they’re probably not that great in bed.
Let’s face it, we’ve all been there. We’ve all seen on our partners’ faces that we could have done better. To be bad in bed is part of being human, I suppose.
But to continue down the same path once you figured it out is part of being an asshole.
That being said and labeled being placed, let’s proceed to the steps that will de-assholize you. You can read the first 5 steps in the first article of this series. It’s best to read that one first.
Here are 5 more practices and happenings that make sex bad:
1. No respect.
I recently heard a theory that horrified me to my core. The theory states that men need to turn off their respect for a woman in order to be able to have good sex with her, because men and women understand respect differently, and a man who respects a woman in bed won’t be able to perform sexually.
To my surprise, this came from a licensed (and quite popular) psychologist who also has a Ph.D. I won’t mention his name, because I’m not into shaming people, nor do I want to make him more popular than he already is.
But we need to talk about it.
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Men and women don’t understand respect differently. That’s why we have the same dictionary for all genders.
Here’s what the Oxford English Dictionary has to say about the meaning of the word ‘respect’.
- a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
- due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
I see no gender differences.
I also want to make it very clear that unless you respect your sexual partner, their sexual experience with you won’t be pleasant. Period.
Even if you’re into hardcore BDSM and your partner enjoys public humiliation, being spit in the face, slapped, and called demeaning names, you should still respect your submissive partner.
Otherwise, they are going to have a bad time with you. And because of you.
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